Ever you fall in love with anyone. Often the experience of love is a bitter one, for many of us. This is because there is an illusion, that in order to be happy, we must acquire the things or in order to be in love, we must possess or be attached to that person. But in reality the reverse is the truth. It is the basic spiritual truth that in order to be in love, we must be detached. It appears to be a contradiction to our conditioned mind.
But when we are attached to anything it becomes a trap for our consciousness. We think about the person or thing unnecessarily. This exhausts our mental energy and we have a feeling that we have lost control over our thoughts and feelings. Every time we think of the person we invoke a fear that, what if I lost the possession over the person or thing. Now this fear frightens us. And fear blocks our ability to love.
Indeed true love needs an atmosphere which is free from fear. To experience true love one should be spiritually full. When you are spiritually full pleasure, happiness well being flows outwards. Thus you don’t expect anything from other. You accept the person you love as they are. If you expect something from other, the fear of being not satisfied is generated. Thus you get frustrated more easily. When you are spiritually full your relationship is on the basis of sharing. You don’t ask anything from other. In true love a sharing of love, happiness, wisdom, knowledge takes place in which you don’t depend upon each other.
The experience of love, peace, happiness and freedom is blocked by fear and attachment. When you attach yourself to the person or object you love, feeling of fear is generated. This is opposite to your objective of love, which is happiness and enjoyment. Slowly you became dependent on that person or object (may be property) and instead of feeling wholeness you became inwardly empty and your energy level goes down.
In the purest form love always works for the benefit of others. Love means, be free and allow others to be. True love is unconditional love. It flows freely. Don’t cling and learn the art of loving.
More and more individuals across the world are opting for a live-in relationship before they tie the knot. The ease with which one can walk out from an impossible relationship in such cases is seemed a far better option than the deadly trap of a social and legal relationship that is impossible to endure.
So far as the family is concerned, there is no addiction with as prolonged and severe an impact as alcoholism has. In many parts of the globe, it is part of the daily dietary consumption, and yet it continues to pose a great challenge to the family welfare whenever addiction takes control of the individual.