Adopted Child: How Does He Feel When He Knows He Is?

Hurt Feelings Of An Adopted Child

The fact that someone is an adopted child has no relation to people who purposely talk about an adopted child, especially if the adopted child is the person they know.

Would you tell others the truth about someone? If the info you pass on to others will hurt his or her feeling, will you still tell the info to others? Let me give you one example. Suppose that John is an adopted child. He has been brought up since he was still a baby. His foster parents have tried to keep the secret about him being only an adopted child. When John was about 10 years old, he heard his neighbors talking about him being an adopted son. He was sad upon hearing it.

He was not brave enough to ask his foster parents about it. He kept it inside him for years even until now.

If you told others about John being an adopted child, what benefit would you derive by telling the truth about John? Will you keep it hush-hush or tell a lie about it. For instance you will say that John is Mr. Smith’s son hiding the fact that John is not Mr. Smith’s biological son. John himself does not like other people talking about him being an adopted child. If I were you, I wouldn’t tell the truth or I would say nothing about it. I can feel how it will hurt his feeling.

In my opinion, people having adopted children probably have different reasons. Some of them probably have no chance of having children of their own, while some others adopt children just because they want to help a family who seems unable to support their children financially.

Supposing, I have to adopt a child, I will certainly consider the child as my own child. I will treat my adopted child the same as I treat children of my own. I will never ever tell the truth about this adoption.

In one of the Islamic lessons, which I learned, God stated that if we bring up a child: feeding him, sending him to school and treating him as if he were our own child, God promises that we will be rewarded in here (now) and the hereafter. In God’s eyes, both biological and adopted children are equal. The food and drink that we feed him become blood that makes him alive.